Sheikh Al-Sharawi on laws of Polygamy in the beginning of Surat An-Nisaa.
Men who accept the idea of multiple marriages but neglect the condition of fair treatment end up being case studies used by those who are critical of the ruling, proving the ills of polygamy and it’s failure to work in real life.
If these men were really trying to follow the rulings in their entirety this wouldn’t be the case.
If anyone tells you they can do whatever they want and still have their heart be in tune with God, the Quran or themselves, then they are either confused or dishonest.
Hearts are too sensitive and they shift too quickly for us to notice or do anything about it till it’s over.
It’s said that wellness is a crown on the head of the healthy, that can only be seen by the sick.
Being under the weather so to speak is an ayah. It’s proof of human nature in action. When you’re sick you don’t care about how you look, or what you’re wearing. You aren’t thinking about what’s happening on reality TV, you could care less what celebrity did or said what, you aren’t fixated on all the petty stuff you usually occupy yourself with.
All you know is you aren’t well and that you are uncomfortable and you want to be better. You pray to God to make you better, even if it’s just a cold or the flu or a headache. Everything stops, it’s just you and your ailment. You’re focused for once, and your vision is clear, no nonsense, you can only see that if you were better you could do this or that, or go here or there and you feel crippled and you want a way out.
If you could only breathe through your stuffed nose or taste what you were eating…
Imagine death, it’s the same on a bigger and more final scale. There’s that and clarity and regret and wishes and a sense of extreme loss and hope in God. He’s the only One that can help you at that time, just like when you’re sick.
It’s our reality, not our food, clothes, friends, achievements or careers. What will we have to say for ourselves? What will we have done that will vouch for us? Intercede for us?
Make a decision to use your time and what’s left of your life to do right by Allah (swt) and your self, do good and focus on what matters before your time is up and there’s nothing but regret.
اللهم افتح لنا أبواب طاعتك و وفقنا إلى صالحات الأعمال و اجعلها لوجهك خالصا و أرزقنا حسن الخاتمة و نسألك رضاك و الجنة و نعوذ بك من سخطك و النار . آمين
Oh Allah open the doors of Your obedience for us, and enable us to do righteous deeds, and make them sincerely for Your sake, and bless us with a good ending. And we ask You for Your pleasure and paradise and seek refuge in You from Your anger and the fire.
I just read your last post and you were asking why hijabis were wearing skinny jeans or tight jeans. I mean, it none of our business, they have their reason. You can’t expect all hijabis to wear the hijab as you see it ! I mean you wear it the way you believe you should wear it. If they want to wear leggings or skinnys , capris, skirts, t-shirts, etcs well it’s their choice. I mean why are we constatly judging hijabis. You can find it as a non-modest clothing, but it this is completely different. It’s yout opinion. For example, a woman wearing skinny jeans and a long top over covering her back and legs, can be persuaded that it is very modest clothing…I don’t see what’s wrong with that and why you should aske yourself why they are wearing tight clothes. There’s not answer to your question, they do and that’s it. This is life.
The point of the quesition is to get anyone who does dress in a way that doesn’t meet what Islam defined as hijab to think about why they do what they do. Clearly a person who covers wants to do right by Allah, and they’re trying to fulfill whats required of them. Which is great, but what needs some reflection is that when we do things in Islam, they’re done as Allah (swt) defined them, not how we feel. Hijab, or clothing for women is explained by the Messenger (pbuh) as what covers the awra, what’s not see-through, or shows the shape of the body (tight), or imitates the clothing of men.
Me or you can’t wake up one day and decide we want to pray 6 rakaat for Duhur prayer, just because it makes us feel good. There’s a clear prescribed way of life defined in the Quran and the Sunnah that is a guidance from Allah to help us live in the best possible way. By calling ourselves Muslims we agree to submit to those rules. We believe in Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) so we take Islam as our way of life. It’s the word of God and it isn’t open for nitpicking and modification. You’re right, it isn’t my business or my concern, each of us will have to answer to Allah for what we did.
Hijab is like anything else in Islam, it is determined by Islam, by Allah (swt) not me or you. So nothing is correct or incorrect unless it follows what’s in the Quran and the Sunnah.
Sometimes the entire point of the post is missed because when we read things we read them with our own personal views and opinions blinding our thoughts, the post was about the effects of hijab on the person wearing it and those they interact with. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of anyone except Allah. We’re all alone in our graves, this touchy feely don’t judge me spiel, is a typical response for those who are insecure about, or in doubt of their own actions looking for validation from others. It’s the duty of a Muslim to advise others when they see them messing up, to help each other make it to jannah inshallah.
When someone advises you and you come out with the “I can do whatever I want, you don’t know me” nonsense, know that it’s your ego and that you are choosing to pass up the opportunity to evaluate yourself and improve and grow if there’s any truth in what they said. All because you don’t want to admit to yourself that you might be wrong, that person may never see you again, and they don’t benefit anything from trying to hurt or insult you. This idea that others want to hurt you by default is wrong, it’s thinking ill of your fellow Muslim and it’s a sin. Fair enough, every person that advises you might not be sincere, in that case they’re going to have to answer to Allah for that.
A word of advice: Stop looking for validation from people, and learn about your own faith, knowledge backs you up and makes you sure of yourself, and when you’re sincere in trying to please Allah (swt) He will never let you down.
This was just off the top of my head, sorry if it’s incoherent.
A woman covers, a man lowers his gaze. If that fails there’s a code of conduct, the conversation should be limited to what’s necessary, no flirting no getting cute, if that fails their limiting the meetings to a public place keeps things in check to an extent. If that’s still not enough then personal space and the no touching rule steps in, if that fails then the severe punishment for adultery or fornication should deter any further action. If your heart isn’t in tune with the laws of the religion this sounds extreme, but look at the flipside:
A woman is out there with all her hotness, a man checks her out, they make eye contact, a conversation starts, lets get out of here, there’s joking and hugs and hand holding and you know the rest.
He has a wife at home, he’s not attracted to her anymore. He’s seen younger, better, prettier, skinnier options out there daily, how could he be? No! it’s because all men are dogs, and a woman needs to hold on to her man. If she can’t keep a man what good is she? She isn’t enough, her self image is shattered her confidence is zero she overcompensated by trying to get attention and she’s more desperate than ever. It isn’t about him, it started with her teen years when she was compared to all the other girls in high school she wasn’t ever really one of those pretty girls.
Baby daddy, single mom, divorce, broken home, moral decay, confusion, no sense of value. Altered sense of reality and priority and a lack of contentment or peace of mind.
Islam addresses all of these issues with a complete system that protects the individuals, couples and families and society at large. When we neglect it we aren’t any better off than those who are out there fending for themselves.
And no one can tell me why a girl in hijab is wearing skinny jeans or tights. I don’t know a good reason and I’m yet to come across any justification. Respect yourself and your faith and your God. We will all be asked.
Jazana wa iyyakum. Ameen, and all the Muslims inshallah.